Good Morning Steve and Shirley,
I am writing in because I need help. I have gotten myself involved in a love triangle and I desperately need to get out of it. A few weeks back my wife came to me and told me she had spoken to her mother and the mother said her father has ED (erectile dysfunction). My wife told me her mother wanted to stay with him, but she has natural needs that she needs fulfilled. Right about this same time, my mother-in-law started hitting on me. I was totally forthcoming with my wife about her mother’s inappropriate verbal comments, like “I bet you have a monster down there!” My wife excused it by saying her mother is just sexually frustrated. I rebuffed her mom’s advances, but they kind of peaked my interest. My wife said she spoke to her mom and her mother told her that she wanted to have sex with me. She told my wife that we could help “save the family.” My wife told me that she wanted me to consider helping her mother out, but I was completely thrown back. I made a vow to my wife and to God to be faithful to my wife! My wife felt that saving our family was more important and since her mom sacrificed a lot to raise her, so this was just a small thing to ask for in return. I did not feel this way. I am a church boy and my wife was my first. After a few weeks of being pressured by my wife and mother in law and with my wife’s blessing, I slept with my mother in law and OMG!!! As I said, my wife is the extent of my sexual experience and my wife’s sexual experiences were limited as well… But her mother has opened my eyes to a whole new world of sexual exploits and I love it! I feel so guilty because I want to have sex with my mother-in-law more than my wife, and it does not help that she is an absolutely stunning woman, I mean she is bad! She and my wife look more like sisters than mother and daughter. She’s a mix between Angela Basset and Halle Berry! I told my wife that I needed to end the arrangement with her mother because I did not feel comfortable anymore. My wife told me if I wanted her to learn new tricks, she would join her mother and I the next time, to “get some pointers.” Needless to say, her mother is teaching US well. My wife is now a beast in the sheets and she tells me her mother’s relationship with her father has improved greatly. I feel so guilty because I have a great relationship with my father-in-law, who is also the pastor at my church. I need to get out of this situation, but I do not want to destroy the family or my church. Please help. Enlightened and confused!